We have an elderly couple near us that we have taken under our wing. Although I suppose we could be called elderly too being almost 69 and 60 respectively. This couple are a good bit older and my husband makes sure they have enough bags of pellets for the stove handy and generally looks out for them and we visit them about every ten days or so. Today we were planning to drop by and do some odd jobs but we had a panicky call from the husband saying his wife was going by ambulance to hospital as she is suffering from bronchitis, could we come tomorrow.
It sounds hard hearted of me I know, but I said to my husband "I know this is selfish but I hope we are not here if anything happens to either of them". That's not really true in that we will do all we can, but what is frustrating us is that they flatly refuse to make any sort of plan or accept that it is inevitable that one of them will be left behind. My husband has offered to make some modifications to their home so life will be easier for them, but no they like it that way, however should the husband die, his wife will be unable to do certain tasks and we are certain he will fall completely to pieces should she go first. When we have tried to bring up the subject of making even small preparations they just start to get upset and don't want to think about it.
We are very different, it is probably my strong practical streak, but we discuss how to make any changes now before we are not able to do it or have to pay for it or whatever. My husband makes sure I know how to turn on the furnace and other little necessaries and I make sure he knows where I put stuff and how the bills are paid etc. We constantly keep in mind that it is going to happen and we must not be morose about it or fearful but prepared. Of course one is never really ready emotionally but it seems down right careless to me not to make plans.
The other thing that always amazes me, especially as people get older, is that there had been no thought given to what happens after death, or any type of spiritual preparation made. I really can't believe that people genuinely believe that when they die it is all over. Mankind from the earliest time has sensed there is something more, and I think every person in his heart of hearts agrees. There is a placard outside the village of Burns Lake where we go shopping that says "Where will you be in eternity". Every religion points to an afterlife of some kind, I think this is built into us human beings, and even if one doesn't follow a particular religion surely one must wonder.